Niklaus OOTD: Stripes

Wednesday, May 24, 2017



Hello there! We hope you’re achieving this week’s goals. If not, there are still a few days to do so, and also, sharing with you positive vibes featuring two outfits of my son, Niklaus. I love stripes, and I love it especially on him. With proper props, this little human can surely pass as a style and fashion blogger, yeah? Shout out to baby clothes’ companies. Lol!
  
 

On Niklaus – (1st) Navy blue and white stripes onesie from Le Petit Bateau, white shoes from H&M, (2nd) Grey and white stripes shirt from H&M, distressed shorts from Zara and white shoes from H&M



 

Have a great week ahead!


Love
~A & N

10 Things I Learned from Motherhood

Tuesday, May 16, 2017



motherhood quote from simpleasthatblog.com


In celebration of mother’s day, I tried to list down things I’ve learned in a year of being a new mom and was able to come up with ten points. I think you would all agree that, being a mom was by far the most challenging, draining and nerve wracking thing that ever happened to you. But it is also the most fulfilling, meaningful and the happiest, it will stretch you to the best person you didn’t think you can be and will push you out of your comfort zone.  So to you new mom like me and to all the moms who are caught up with the craziness of motherhood, this list is for you.


1.       You do not have to do everything by yourself

-          Dear Super Mom, if help is being offered, take it. It was there because you need it, and don’t take it as a sign of weakness, it’s called being smart. When you do accept help, trust the help and not control every minute detail. Trust me, it’s not easy to let go, the first part was hardest for me but I realized that the extra energy and time I have should be put to more important things.


2.       You cannot control everything

-          As much as you want to have a say and be hands-on on everything, there is only one you. In connection with the first item, instead of achieving of controlling everything, focus on what’s important, that is spending time with your baby and husband and family.

3.       Taking a step back is not a failure

-          As a first time mom, juggling my career, childcare and housekeeping was my biggest struggle. I came to accept that I need to re-prioritize, that is childcare, housekeeping and career. Yes, I needed to take a step back at my career, but I did not quit. I kind of lay low from my competitiveness; fortunately, I have met all the expectations they set for me at work but nothing extra special. It’s frustrating at first because I’m naturally competitive, but accepting this is the only option to move forward smoothly. Plus, I get to have more time writing instead of stressing.

4.       You are the best childcare your baby can have.

-          So stop comparing yourself to your nanny. I know it’s easier said than done, trust me, I’m still managing my emotions when it comes to this. But my son has really helped and is continuously helping me to get over this. He really showed to me and made me feel that I’m his number one and that I’m his mother. It would also help if you’ll have an open and clear communication with your nanny.

5.       Forgive yourself and your husband

-          As with everything, committing mistake is part of the learning process. As new parents, my husband and I have little to no experience in raising a child, so we always figure out things as we go along. Luckily, Niklaus has always been a happy baby! Remember, you and your husband are partners, so instead of fighting over the mistakes you made, help each other on how you can avoid and improve. This is probably on the top of things I need to improve on, I love you husband!

6.         Listen to your child

-            This is one of the most important things I’ve learned. I know babies cannot talk, but they sure have ways to deliver their message, on what they need and what they want. You just have to listen and pay attention to their actions. The crying would get into you at some point, but always remember that this is your son’s way to communicate, so instead of getting annoyed by the crying, I focus on trying to figure out what he need.

7.       You need to unlearn to learn

-          This skill has been most useful for me as a first time mom. Unlike my husband, I have gained a few childcare skills taking care of my younger cousins, and nephews. I have used some of these skills but note that every child has its unique needs. So instead of pushing on things you know work from before, again, follow your child, he knows best what he needs and wants.

8.         It’s okay to not be okay

-          With the social media trends on relationship goals, mom goals and whatever life goals there are nowadays, we tend to put unnecessary pressure on ourselves to be something that looks good on social media. Dear Super Mom, it’s okay to not be okay, it’s okay to cry your heart out, don’t mind those judgmental eyes lurking around when you walk in the park or in the halls of the mall, what’s important are those sparkly little eyes of your little human. Remember, even superheroes bleed and fall back when needed, take some time for yourself; your child will thank you for it.

9.       Build your trusted army

-          We all know that raising a child takes a village, so little by little, make sure to build your trusted and reliable army. I am still on the recruitment stage, lol. So I don’t have a lot of things to say on how you can build one, any advice?

10.   Live in the moment
-          I know this last item is probably the hardest because of the tons of things we mom needs to do in keeping our house and pursuing our careers, but, this is also the most important and the best learning I have learned in motherhood. With the lightning speed growth and development of our son, I have learned to stop on the chores and be with my son. The mess and mountain of laundries would always be there but the milestone of my son can happen in the blink of an eye. 



Summer Lovin'

Friday, May 12, 2017

 
 

Finally hitting the beach this weekend!!! It's been a looooooooooong time, no sea! I'm really looking forward to the sand, the waves and to just get out of the hustle of city life. This is the first beach trip of my family, yes, you read it right, Niklaus is coming. We haven't pack anything, so panic mode later for sure. Lol! Any tips on travelling with babies? What to bring? Leave a comment or a link to a post! 

Before panic mode starts, leaving you this summer / aircon ready inspired outfit. Hihi! The intense heat have pushed the confidence up inside me to wear some shorts. Just a tip, if you're feeling a little bit insecure wearing shorts, I tried to compensate it by covering my top body parts. Love this soft denim I got from a factory overrun shop, it's H&M in good condition and at a cheaper prize. My favorite and only backpack is from Mumuso, it always made me feel like a cool kid in school everytime I wear it, also very affordable, though, I have an issue with the zipper.

That would be all!!! Advanced happy mother's day again!

Btw, will be posting my little giveaway tonight so follow me on instagram and like my facebook page!



Love
~A 

Mommy A's Labor Day

Wednesday, May 10, 2017



Niklaus turned one a few days ago and so was the day I labored to get him out of my womb. I couldn’t help but reminisce what happened on the past year, especially what happened during my Labor Day! Haha!


It was May 4, Wednesday, when the little human inside made me feel his excitement of getting out. I was in the office, quite busy if I remembered it correctly, when I felt a contraction. I was on my thirty sixth week, so this feeling got me to panic a bit. I started moving around on my chair to check if this was it, or just a false alarm, the contraction went away every time I moved and so was my panic. I immediately informed my husband of the incident and started to time my contractions. I also tried walking around when I felt a stronger contraction. It became consecutive but not regular, so I messaged my OB-GYN that I will paid a visit and ask my boss to have an early lunch so I could pay a visit to my OB.

I was the last patient when I arrived the clinic, my OB immediately gave me an internal examination. IT. WAS. BRAXTON HICKS. But it turned out that my cervix started to open, like 1 centimeter open, I was assured by my OB that it's still thick so the baby won’t be coming out that day and her best estimate is that I could deliver within the week or two. 


Fun fact, my husband has an employee benefit that shoulders delivery cost of a baby if the doctor that will deliver your baby is accredited; and you got it right, the OB who checked me above is not (let’s call her OB-1 to avoid confusion). We tried if she would be willing to be accredited but her answer is no. So we had a little adventure few weeks before D-day, in finding another OB that will delivery our baby and is also accredited. 


This got me a bit scared since I have been comfortable with my OB-1, she has been great for all those months and now to the D-day, another person will be with me. It was a week before D-day when we finally decided for a replacement. I was hoping I could meet her but, boy was she busy. My OB-1 has strongly suggested that I meet with OB-2, but she got called into an emergency, and so was the opportunity to meet her before D-day.


May 7, I had another check-up with OB-1 as we had a goal for me to get a flu vaccine before D-day so I can pass some of that to the little human inside me. The flu vaccine came really late, so we need to find another clinic that can provide, luckily, the accredited clinic of husband’s company already has a stock. So we went there to get vaccinated. There was a line so I got myself a taho for snack, (Fact: soya is good for baby’s brain development, so eat up soon to be mom). 


After the vaccination, I suddenly felt some contractions; it went away when I walk so I thought it was because of the syrup from the taho. We had lunch at a nearby restaurant and went back to the clinic, I can’t remember why. When we’re about to go home the contractions came back and this time it was stronger, like I can feel the baby’s head coming out.


We went home, and packed all the things we can pack. We obviously were not ready. At lunch, I remember that my husband and I are talking of the things we still need to buy. Haha! We messaged everyone, OB-1, OB-2, family and friends.  Our things may not be that ready, but my labor plan was all laid out. OB-1 made sure it was all plan out four weeks before ETA, this is so important soon-to-be-mom, so nothing will be forced on you that you don't want to during labor.


At the hospital, we went straight to the pre-labor room since I could still walk and got admitted. Pre labor procedures were conducted which includes several internal examinations to check the cervix, several questioning for medical records, and lavativa (this procedure is critical to avoid infection during delivery); medical apparatus were placed on me to monitor the contractions and the baby’s heart rate.  I was all by myself at the pre-labor, feeling all sorts of feelings, luckily, the pre-labor resident doctor was a beautiful lady so it kind of calms me. Haha! 


It was, I think, quarter to 8 p.m. when they decided to transfer me to the labor room. They have qualifying measures on who should be in the pre-labor and labor room. The labor room is a much spacious room and I had a nurse who is looking out for me and attending to my needs. I was given oxygen, when you’re conscious; it was harder to breathe with that on. But the oxygen was in fact for the baby, as a mommy in labor has a tendency to not breathe properly.


I don’t know how often they were asking on the rating of the pain, but every time they asked, my answer would be 8, but then my OB-2 and the nurses would ask why am I still smiling. They were actually asking for the pain level to know whether it’s time to give me the epidural. A week before D-day, we already had a consultation with the anesthesiologist on how my labor pains will be handled, we chose the epidural. They were very particular that this option is only painless and not pain-free.  This was included on my labor plan. 


 For my whole stay in the labor room, I was lying down, there are still machines attached to me to monitor my contractions, baby’s heart rate and my blood pressure. It was 9 pm and I felt something exploded; I called for the nurse, she examined and told me that it was my water that popped. Yup, I didn’t have that dramatic effect they have on the movies when their water broke (FACT: When you’re water broke but you haven’t felt any contraction i.e., you’re not yet in labor, please still to go to the hospital to avoid any infection to the baby or immediately inform your OB-GYN). 


So my water broke, this was also the start of the agony. Oh the pain is just getting intense as the minute went by, moving around the bed has little to no help. I then decided that it is time for the epidural. Epidural is a regional anesthesia that blocks pain from a particular body part, in this case from buttocks down to my toes. Needle sized tubes were attached to the end of my spine, these where the anesthesia will flow. This was one of the hardest part of my labor, I need to be very still while they are attaching the tubes and with the pain I’m feeling, this was impossible. They attached it quick the first time, but I still could feel unbearable pain. I could feel the little human inside me pushing out, they tried it again, but for the second time, I am screaming in pain. Someone has to hold me to keep me still so they can re-attach the tubes, I might have hurt them in the process.


The epidural usually kicks in after 15 minutes, and finally it started kicking in. But, the first dose of epidural was not enough, I can feel my body breaking and tearing apart. It was time that I be moved to the delivery room. 


When I reached the delivery room, I still feel a bit of contraction but it’s bearable, but not my legs. I also got chills, chilling to the point of shaking. So they gave me additional blanket. Thankfully, they let my husband to be with me during delivery, I wish he was also there during labor. 


The pushing begins. The unhelpful side effect of a continuous epidural is that you will feel the contraction lesser than it should. Dear soon-to-be mom, this may or may not be mentioned to you early on, but you have to push when there is a contraction; because logically, the baby is pushing every contraction. I had a hard time feeling the contractions, so they timed the pushing for me and help me pushed the little human out. I may not felt enough contractions but I felt the little human came out of me. They did not need to slap him, he cry once he got out, probably because it was too cold outside my womb, haha. 


I asked my husband to record everything, but he got struck by the beautiful human and probably by the amount of blood there was. The nurse has to tell him that he can start taking video and pictures. I saw tears coming out of his eyes, it was priceless. We followed the “Unang Yakap” (you can watch a video in youtube) procedure for my delivery, so I got to hold my baby after checking the baby. He crawled on me until he reached my breast for his first collustrum. It was amazing. One of the best scenes I had in my life. But, I did not cry! I did not had that dramatic reaction they usually have or those that I have watched and heard. I was exhausted, in relief and chilling; and half of my body was numb. It was finally over. I can eat chocolates. These are my thoughts. Haha! 



I said a little prayer after, gave thanks to the Lord that my little human is healthy, complete and is so alive, that I’m alive and for the smooth delivery. It was 12:15 in the midnight, a Sunday and it’s mother’s day!


Advanced happy mother’s day!!!

Love
~A

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